Not A Birthday Party

I feel like I’ve known her forever. I’m sure in a previous life we were mermaids, or French songstresses, or warrior princesses. One of the three. For sure. This is supposing I actually believed in reincarnation or such things, of course.

In this life I’ve known her a long time. Nearly 20 years. Our stories have interlaced around each other several times. In this life we are both writers. And bloggers. And dreamers. And friends.

As friends go, you couldn’t hope for better. She’s seen the very worst of me. And still she reminds me of my very best. She’s loyal and generous to the core.

A few weeks ago my friend asked if she could host a little celebration for my birthday. She undersood my birthday curse. She understood how nervous I was about parties being held for me. She understood my fears. So I found myself agreeing to it. On one condition, “Let’s call it a get-together, not a birthday party…”. And, being the patient friend that she is, she agreed to my neurotic semantics.

And so was born a little high tea in her courtyard. The warmest host in the world took care of  everything.

Hand-drawn invitations were sent. Aren’t they stunning? (A handful of mostly mutual friends from our writing world were invited).

Beautiful bunting was draped.

Divine crockery was laid out.

Scrumptious food was prepared.
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The tiniest details were paid attention to.
Food1And what did I do? I did NOTHING. I simply turned up. Heavenly!

Picture this: Blissful summery afternoon sun. Sipping tea from fine china. Devouring delicate cakes. Guzzling down home-made lemonade. Fabulous conversations with lovely people.

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Party N2 1

Party N1 5

It was perfect.

And just like that, my birthday curse was broken.

Do you know what feels good?

To feel celebrated. To feel loved. To feel like someone gives a damn about your birthday.



  1. MoederKip says

    I’m so glad that you’re feeling the love you so deserve. And that you found the faith you needed to let go and let your friends celebrate you. xxx
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  2. says

    I suspect you are underestimating your contribution to both the party and the friendship. But I am thrilled you had such a wonderful time and felt loved and celebrated. And most of all that the curse has been broken. Onward to many more joyous birthdays!! X

  3. Debyl1 says

    You must Be a beautiful friend Deb to Have such a beautiful friend.
    You deserve to be celebrated and please know there are so so many of us out here who truly do give a dam.Big hugs.Xx

    • Deb says

      Oh Debbie, you say the loveliest things. You’re a sweetheart. I LOVE that you give a damn about friends. And the feeling is entirely mutual. xx

  4. Elisa {With Grace & Eve} says

    What a beautiful friend! May this be the start of many beautiful birthdays where you always feel loved and celebrated xx

  5. says

    Love that she knew your dislike, love that you trusted your friend and that in the end you had a great day. Belated happy birthday.

    • Deb says

      Thank you, Lee. I’m sure you wished me happy birthday on the actual day a couple of weeks ago 😉 … but I’ll gladly take another one!

  6. says

    I am so glad to read you have a lovely and positively memorable celebration, Deb. What a beautiful gesture from Naomi. Such deep friendships are hard to come by and harder to sustain. I wish you lots of positive and wonderful things in this next year of your life. xo
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    • Deb says

      Yes, I am very lucky to have a friend like Naomi. I agree – such friendships are rare. And thank you, Veronica! (And I’m sorry I’m only just coming around to respond to your lovely comments now). xx

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