Not A Birthday Party

February 6, 2013

I feel like I’ve known her forever. I’m sure in a previous life we were mermaids, or French songstresses, or warrior princesses. One of the three. For sure. This is supposing I actually believed in reincarnation or such things, of course.

In this life I’ve known her a long time. Nearly 20 years. Our stories have interlaced around each other several times. In this life we are both writers. And bloggers. And dreamers. And friends.

As friends go, you couldn’t hope for better. She’s seen the very worst of me. And still she reminds me of my very best. She’s loyal and generous to the core.

A few weeks ago my friend asked if she could host a little celebration for my birthday. She undersood my birthday curse. She understood how nervous I was about parties being held for me. She understood my fears. So I found myself agreeing to it. On one condition, “Let’s call it a get-together, not a birthday party…”. And, being the patient friend that she is, she agreed to my neurotic semantics.

And so was born a little high tea in her courtyard. The warmest host in the world took care of  everything.

Hand-drawn invitations were sent. Aren’t they stunning? (A handful of mostly mutual friends from our writing world were invited).
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Beautiful bunting was draped.
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Divine crockery was laid out.
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Scrumptious food was prepared.
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The tiniest details were paid attention to.
Food1And what did I do? I did NOTHING. I simply turned up. Heavenly!

Picture this: Blissful summery afternoon sun. Sipping tea from fine china. Devouring delicate cakes. Guzzling down home-made lemonade. Fabulous conversations with lovely people.

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It was perfect.

And just like that, my birthday curse was broken.

Do you know what feels good?

To feel celebrated. To feel loved. To feel like someone gives a damn.

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kirri February 6, 2013 at 7:57 am

What an exquisite looking get-together.

That’s the type of friend you want to hold on to for always. It looks like she feels exactly the same way about you x
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Deb February 9, 2013 at 9:56 pm

I agree, Kirri. Definitely a friend to hold on to for always. x

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Lydia February 6, 2013 at 8:40 am

How absolutely fabulous. To have such a friend can take a lifetime’s search and you have had 20 years together! What a beautiful spread and such attention to the finer points and details. LOVELY!!!! Happy Birthday, Deb. and may you have so many more that you curse your wrinkles and blotches! Take care. xo
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Deb February 9, 2013 at 9:57 pm

Thank you, Lydia! It is truly special to find such a friend in one’s life. x

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Carli February 6, 2013 at 8:49 am

So glad the birthday curse has been broken x
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Deb February 9, 2013 at 9:57 pm

Me too, Carli! xx

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MoederKip February 6, 2013 at 9:12 am

I’m so glad that you’re feeling the love you so deserve. And that you found the faith you needed to let go and let your friends celebrate you. xxx
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Deb February 9, 2013 at 9:58 pm

Yes, finding that faith was the hardest part. x

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Naomi Bulger February 6, 2013 at 10:48 am

I suspect you are underestimating your contribution to both the party and the friendship. But I am thrilled you had such a wonderful time and felt loved and celebrated. And most of all that the curse has been broken. Onward to many more joyous birthdays!! X

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Deb February 9, 2013 at 9:58 pm

Thank you dear friend for everything. I only hope I can make you feel loved and celebrated one day too! :)

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Debyl1 February 6, 2013 at 12:12 pm

You must Be a beautiful friend Deb to Have such a beautiful friend.
You deserve to be celebrated and please know there are so so many of us out here who truly do give a dam.Big hugs.Xx

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Deb February 9, 2013 at 10:00 pm

Oh Debbie, you say the loveliest things. You’re a sweetheart. I LOVE that you give a damn about friends. And the feeling is entirely mutual. xx

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Mary Arch February 6, 2013 at 10:08 pm

So lovely!!!!! xo

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Deb February 9, 2013 at 10:00 pm

Yes! It was! xx

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Tez February 6, 2013 at 11:17 pm

Beautiful invitation card, beautiful high tea, beautiful friend, beautiful non-birthday girl. Thank you for inviting me too. It was lovely xxxx
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Deb February 9, 2013 at 10:02 pm

Tez, I’m so glad you felt ‘invited’! I’ve missed you Tez – planning a big catch up of your blog. xx

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Trish February 8, 2013 at 8:28 am

How divine and what a special friend , one blessed with an equally special friend.
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Deb February 9, 2013 at 10:02 pm

Aw, Trish – that’s lovely. xx

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Elisa {With Grace & Eve} February 9, 2013 at 3:33 am

What a beautiful friend! May this be the start of many beautiful birthdays where you always feel loved and celebrated xx

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Deb February 9, 2013 at 10:03 pm

Thank you Elisa! That is my wish too. xx :)

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Lee February 9, 2013 at 9:49 am

Love that she knew your dislike, love that you trusted your friend and that in the end you had a great day. Belated happy birthday.

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Deb February 9, 2013 at 10:04 pm

Thank you, Lee. I’m sure you wished me happy birthday on the actual day a couple of weeks ago ;) … but I’ll gladly take another one!

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Lee February 10, 2013 at 8:52 am

Ha. I thought that after I posted. Oh well, if I forget next year you have a spare one.
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Veronica @ Mixed Gems February 25, 2013 at 10:51 am

I am so glad to read you have a lovely and positively memorable celebration, Deb. What a beautiful gesture from Naomi. Such deep friendships are hard to come by and harder to sustain. I wish you lots of positive and wonderful things in this next year of your life. xo
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Deb March 7, 2013 at 6:36 pm

Yes, I am very lucky to have a friend like Naomi. I agree – such friendships are rare. And thank you, Veronica! (And I’m sorry I’m only just coming around to respond to your lovely comments now). xx

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