Be Alive

May 2, 2012

Be brave. Roar into the wind. Do that thing you’ve always wanted to do. On your deathbed you won’t be regretting that the mortgage isn’t paid, you’ll be kicking yourself for not taking more chances. Feel the full rush of freefall. Don’t be afraid of the unknown. The unknown could be the sweet taste of accomplishment or the intoxicating warmth of a kiss.

Be a rebel. Even in the small things. Open a packet of crackers at the end that says ‘Open Other End’. Drink espressos after midnight. Eat chocolate cake for breakfast. Summon your inner-Kevin Bacon and dance where you’re not supposed to. Wear kick-arse boots at least once in your life. Question everything. Question The System. The System does not always have your best interests at heart. Don’t even think about living close to the edge, live ON it. Where it’s sharp.

Be creative. Create for that sweet trickle of delight that you get from seeing something beautiful and fresh. Create as if no-one else is watching. Create without the expectation of approval. Get off Twitter, it steals all your creative thoughts. Take out all your ugly stuff, especially the stuff you can’t see, and make it into something exquisite. You will heal parts of you that you didn’t realise needed healing.

Let it go. Let go of anger. If you’re angry at someone, chances are you’re angry at yourself. Make peace with yourself. Let go of guilt and shame. They are greedy lies that will eat you. Don’t give them credit for things they don’t deserve. Don’t give them time. Open a window, fling them like garbage into the gutter. Let them go.

Be present. Let your thoughts unfurl onto a soft pillow. Let them have a nana nap. Stretch out in bed and do snow angels under the blankets just for the heck of it. Step outside and smell the rain on the leaves. Lie under a big tree and stare achingly at the sky. Curl into a ball and count your heartbeats until you get to infinity.

Be courageous. Have a backbone. Be a voice for those that are muted by fear. Stand up for what is right. Look around the planet and be aware of your luck. Entitlement is an an obnoxious boor who gatecrashed the party.

Be kind. Humility is strength. Generosity is underrated. Visit people who are lonely, let a car into traffic ahead of you, bake cup cakes for a friend, write love notes, let someone else have the last chocolate in the box, listen to an old person, give money to the poor without announcing it on Facebook.  Let your kindness change the world. One deed at a time.

Be compassionate. Especially to children. They are not your enemy. Your wounds are your enemy. Be compassionate with your wounds. Cry for them. Give them chicken soup. Nurse them back to health.

Be gentle. Even if it doesn’t come naturally to you. Even if inside you’re on fire. Take a deep breath and say soft words. Stroke your lover’s hair. Randomly whisper I love you into your children’s ears. You’ll never be able to say it enough times. Nuzzle into their necks and feel their gentle spirits drawing closer yours.

Know yourself. Take yourself out for a coffee or to a movie. Hang out, fall in love. With you! Reach deep into your heart and ask it what it values, what it is good at, and what it needs. Then nourish it with respect and love and chocolate.

Be powerful. Use your power wisely and graciously. Never give it away like jelly beans. You need a full jar. Don’t give it away in your language, in the way you sit, in the way you walk. Because it’s not jelly beans. It’s your soul. Don’t apologise for it. Ever.

Be alive. Boldly step into your skin and know how outrageously valuable you are.

I wrote this list for myself. I hope I can swallow it. I’ll try. Click out of this screen and write your own list. Start with a blank canvas. Write anything you want.

Be alive. Your time starts now.


{ 40 comments… read them below or add one }

Brokenhearted Mummy May 2, 2012 at 2:40 pm

WOW! That is amazing the way you have written that..
All very good and reasonable things to talk about…

I’m grateful for every day I wake up…


Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:39 pm

Thank you. Yes, I am grateful for every day that I wake up too.


Debbie @ Aspiring Mum May 2, 2012 at 3:42 pm

Beautiful Deb. It’s really quite simple, but we often complicate things for ourselves with regards to really living. It’s often the smallest things that bring us the most enjoyment and make us feel truly alive.
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Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:40 pm

Absolutely, Debbie. I love observing the details.


Happylan May 2, 2012 at 4:00 pm

Just so brilliant Deb. Wow.
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Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:40 pm

Thank you Alana. xx


Ink Paper Pen May 2, 2012 at 6:05 pm

Deb, I need to print this out and read it every day.The Questioning is my favorite bit. Although, as you say, I should really write my own list!

And is that you in the photo? x
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Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:41 pm

Gill, I took this photo of my friend. We were young, in Ireland, and there was a ledge below that you can’t see. Still, she was pretty gutsy I thought!


katepickle May 2, 2012 at 8:01 pm

I need to read this again and again and again


Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:42 pm

So do I! x


edenland May 2, 2012 at 8:09 pm

THIS. A krillion times, this.

Doing snow angels under my blankets right now, in celebration of this wonderful arrangement of words you got goin’ on here.

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Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:38 pm

Eden, I wrote this this morning before I read your Mask post. When I read your post I realised that my opening paragraph was what you’re doing right now. Be brave – you know you already are – but I’m holding you too. x


Rah May 2, 2012 at 8:38 pm

You have no idea how much I need this right now.
Thank you. So much.
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Deb May 2, 2012 at 8:41 pm

Excellent! x


Grace May 3, 2012 at 11:58 am

“If you’re angry at someone, chances are you’re angry at yourself…” oh, so how very true. Beautiful list. Very wise. Very powerful. xxx
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Deb May 3, 2012 at 12:07 pm

So very true, yet I forget it all the time. x


Melissa May 3, 2012 at 5:18 pm

Agree and love what you have written only wish my 15yr daughter realized this statement “Be compassionate. Especially to children. They are not your enemy.”
; )


Deb May 3, 2012 at 5:26 pm

I hope she will one day, Melissa. Keep pouring on that compassion! x


Vicky May 3, 2012 at 6:35 pm

Brilliant and inspiring, and so what I needed to read right now. Thank you.
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Deb May 3, 2012 at 9:58 pm

Thanks, Vicky!


Jill May 3, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Yes yes and yes.

And as a mother, imagine the repercussions!!!
Thanks Deb
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Deb May 3, 2012 at 9:59 pm

Mothers can change the world, Jill. :)


Dorothy @ Singular Insanity May 3, 2012 at 8:57 pm

Thank you :)


Deb May 4, 2012 at 11:28 am

You’re welcome, Dorothy! x


rex May 4, 2012 at 9:10 pm

beautiful Deb, thanks for visiting my blog. Its all true what true say above. So much freedom in knowing that and then feeling it.
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Deb May 5, 2012 at 10:16 pm

Thanks Rex. x


Kate Sins May 7, 2012 at 2:23 pm

Deb, I am printing this and putting it front and centre on my lady-room wall. This is what it’s all about. So beautiful.
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Deb May 8, 2012 at 6:44 pm

I think I need to get me a lady-room! xx


Naomi Bulger May 8, 2012 at 10:57 am

Oh, poking my head up from under a crushing mountain of work and deadlines that seem impossible and a pile of ‘to do’ jobs that gets bigger no matter how many hours I put in… and I read this post. Thank you! It is exactly what I needed to hear. Cold water in the face. I am smiling.
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Deb May 8, 2012 at 6:45 pm

Yay! So glad it was like cold water to you. Hope you storm your way through that work! x


Lee May 8, 2012 at 10:10 pm

I want to read this again and again too. Such inspiring and reasonable words Deb. xx
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Deb May 8, 2012 at 10:19 pm

Thanks Lee! I need to read it again too! x


Kelly Exeter May 10, 2012 at 3:44 pm

AHHHhmazing post Deb. I wish I had something, ANYthing worthwhile to say that could match its power. But I don’t. But I also don’t want to be one of those people who won’t comment on amazing posts because they have nothing cool to say in return ;)
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Deb May 10, 2012 at 3:50 pm

Kelly, HUGE respect for you for saying what you just said – even if it was in jest. ;) I sometimes catch myself thinking that too, but then realise bloggers are human (just like me!) and I know how much every comment means to me! Thank you!


Carli@tinysavages May 10, 2012 at 7:12 pm

I’ve come back and read this three times now, love it x
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Deb May 10, 2012 at 7:20 pm

Thanks, Carli! x


Maxabella May 12, 2012 at 8:38 pm

I love this! It makes me want to shout into the ocean from a cliff top “I’m here! I’m proud!”

Thank you. x
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Deb May 12, 2012 at 10:56 pm

Thanks Bron! x


Ben May 19, 2012 at 6:33 am

Great post! So inspiring and affirming.
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Deb May 19, 2012 at 5:39 pm

Thank you Ben!


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